The Perfect Lie

Source: Gentle Touch Plastic Surgery

Social media is what I like to call a gift and a curse, on one hand, it is a smart networking and marketing tool. On the other hand, it is the smart networking and marketing tool. Still confused, me too but as we already know the apps allow us to use snapshots and short videos to promote ourselves, businesses, lifestyles to an array of different individuals in cities across the globe that have nothing to go off about us but the profile of our best bits.

Between food porn and latest dance craze videos, one of the most popular types of pictures on social media is those of Influencers and Models. It’s like you cannot get through a feed without being bombarded with images of scantily clad women captioned with some sort of motivational quote.

Disclaimer, this is not a post bashing Influencers or Models because as a Blogger my duties often cross over into both world’s, and they do serve as role models for many people for various reasons. But sites such as Instagram are a breeding ground for creating falsehoods, with Commercial and Fitness models inundating the site with their profiles and generating myths on how to get the perfect bod, but tactfully leaving out the fact that their passport has a mysterious stamp from Turkey with no trace of the visit on their page.

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Source: Cruise Plastic Surgery

At the moment plastic surgery is all the rage in this new era. It is difficult to come across anyone who has not had a nip, tuck or prick anywhere to enhance or even change their physical attributes completely. From Brazilian buttlifts to Dermal Fillers it is as easy to come by as visiting your local corner shop for your favourite pack of sweets.

One thing that has not changed is the individuals undergoing such procedures being open and honest about it instead of claiming that fitness and great health choices gave them the body of their dreams. For instance, Nakita Johnson well-known Youtuber, Model, and Actress came under fire this week after she was complimented by a follower about her physical appearance and asked who the surgeon was that helped her reach her desired state. Nakita denied any augmentations and gave all of her praises to family traits and God. This appeared to enrage her followers who dispelled her ideas of being a natural beauty and begun to drop pictures of her before she had surgery to verify that this was not just normal changes.

I caught onto all this drama so late that Nakita had begun to recant her tweets and I was unable to see her responses, but by the looks of the remaining comments from other users she didn’t appear to let the comments go over her head. I am far from a fan of body shaming so I frown upon putting another person down for their presentation, but the long and short of it all is that her body as stunning as it is, is not a result of just great genes and the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit taking control of your livelihood.

Nakita’s approach to the situation was similar to that of a few others who have been called out. Between the Jenners, the Kardashians and a bunch of other models who are considered to have “the perfect body” the common theme includes convincing the public that drastic differences in their looks are the result of a great makeup artist, going to the gym or the worst myth of them all drinking enough liters of water just short of drowning yourself.

If you are anything like me then some of you reading this post have succumbed to the body image demons and have indulged in a fad or 2. From Flat Tummy Tea to Appetite suppressants (for me it was the waist trainers) people across the globe have bought into unrealistic health trends because they have been promoted by a person who has falsified accounts of it being the number 1 method for their physique.

Due to science and technology moving on so fast it becomes increasingly harder to detect whether someone has had any enhancements. With some procedures only needing short recovery times, you can be in the chair and out within a matter of hours without anyone having a clue that you have been tweaked.

With Plastic Surgery being at its height at the moment, with more and more men and women admitting to going under the knife to make some changes it appears to be a much more acceptable amongst millennials. So I think we can all agree that we are a lot less likely to be bothered by someone choosing surgery to make alterations.

With all this being said the reality of the situation is that we should not be so easily led. It is a part of an influencers job to use photos to emulate the perfect life, friends and looks so we should expect for them to do this without a blemish. I think with the current state of the beauty standards perfectionism will always be a unique selling point and we can admire there state but also notice the differences in our structures. We as a community should stop believing and reinforcing these testimonials and idiot guides to the perfect bod because they are highly unattainable without a cost and not their faith, consistency and hard work that paid off, but the skilfull work of a Surgeon.

Lastly a message to all the influencers out there, just tell us you saw Dr. Miami so we can stop getting IBS from Boo Tea👍

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30 Before 30 Bucket List

Last Sunday I reached another milestone in my life, the 8th of April 2018 marked my 29th birthday and the last year of my twenties. Yes guys, I am almost 30 years old😣

30 is that year that is supposed to be the life-changing era, according to society you are supposed to have figured out the meaning of life and be well on your way to mastering it by this age. But the reality is most of us are focused on just being able to come to terms with paying off our student loans never mind looking at the wider aspects of the future.

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In my old age I have become a sentimental old lass and have always been a massive stickler for living my best life, so I am always up for trying new things and willing to go on adventures that will serve as lifelong memories. I felt the best way to honor all of these characteristics I possess and give me something to look back on was to start a bucket list of things that I have been thinking about doing for the longest but have either put off or chickened out of doing.

So I compiled all of my thoughts into a list of 30 things to do over the next year;

  1. Travel somewhere I don’t know the language
  2. Learn to forgive
  3. Overcome a fear
  4. Attend a Halloween party in full costume
  5. Participate in Carnival
  6. Finally get that tattoo you have been talking about for years
  7. Travel solo
  8. Get your business off the floor
  9. Get your work-life balance in order
  10. become more confident with fashion shoots
  11. Embrace my body
  12. Go on a road trip
  13. Do something for your community
  14. Complete a charity obstacle course
  15. Go to an art class
  16. Make my own flower wall
  17. Get in touch with my faith
  18. Try out more vegan recipes
  19. Release a lantern into the sky
  20. Do something that scares you
  21. Learn to make your own clothing
  22. Take a buying and merchandising course
  23. Save money
  24. Master Mindfulness
  25. Accept and love yourself
  26. Start dancing again
  27. Expand the blog
  28. Start a podcast
  29. Pass my driving test
  30. Generate another stream of income

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My 20’s have been wonderful to me and I have probably gained most of my wisdom within the last 6 years, so I can only imagine how eventful the dirty 30’s will be. If any of my readers are as old as me or have started a bucket list for any other reason please let me know what you want to achieve in the comments. I will be keeping you guys up to speed on what I have achieved over the next year, and whether I complete it all or not I will still have so much to be proud of.

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