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Goodbye… For Now

6 Jun 2019 No Comments

Blogging has been one of the best things I have ever done, I wrote for a very long time and refused to release it to the world out of anxiety of what others would think and lack of confidence in my abilities. But I remember the feelings I had pressing publish on my first post being a mix of worry and pride, and I would not trade any of those for a thing in this world.

I started Cheap Clothes 4 Heauxs because I have loved fashion for as long as I can remember. I didn’t come from a family where money was freely available. So when I got to university, I felt like a fish out of water hanging around girls who got allowances from their parents and lil old me who had to hustle to make things work utilised all the tricks of the trade to keep up with them given to me by my mother who was my first fashion inspiration. I decided I wanted to share these techniques that I still use till this very day, with girls who felt the same way I did, or women who just like to look good and save those extra coins for something more worthwhile.

Despite the reason for my hiatus, which has been due to major moves being made in my main hustle, I feel like my soul is yearning for me to fulfil a different destiny. Last year I launched a new portion to the blog named Diary of a Lost Soul which was born out of my frustrations with my position within that moment. Not only was I able to release my innermost thoughts and feeling, but I was able to find a new love in my life that allows me to be a sounding board for myself as well as show others that life is an experience of ups and downs that nobody is alone with.

With this being said, it is with a heavy heart that I close the chapter on Cheap Clothes 4 Heauxs, but allow a larger platform for Diary of A Lost Soul to flourish. Just like life, we grow, and in order to move forward towards new opportunities, we must close the door on some of the very ones that we started with. I aim for Diary of a Lost Soul to be a lifestyle blog for people from all walks of life to seek support, advice and “oh hell yes” moments from as at times we just need a place to keep it real.

Fashion will always be my first love. But I sense that my purpose is leading me in a different direction, this choice could cause me to lose some very loyal followers or to find some new people to interact with but what I can guarantee is that the style of my content will never change so stick around for your girl.

Thank you all for staying down with me through my hiatus. Stay tuned for some great content and a transformation coming this way on Diary of a Lost Soul for the highs and woes of life from your average Josephine😉

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30 Before 30 Bucket List

11 Apr 2018 No Comments

Last Sunday I reached another milestone in my life, the 8th of April 2018 marked my 29th birthday and the last year of my twenties. Yes guys, I am almost 30 years old😣

30 is that year that is supposed to be the life-changing era, according to society you are supposed to have figured out the meaning of life and be well on your way to mastering it by this age. But the reality is most of us are focused on just being able to come to terms with paying off our student loans never mind looking at the wider aspects of the future.

In my old age I have become a sentimental old lass and have always been a massive stickler for living my best life, so I am always up for trying new things and willing to go on adventures that will serve as lifelong memories. I felt the best way to honor all of these characteristics I possess and give me something to look back on was to start a bucket list of things that I have been thinking about doing for the longest but have either put off or chickened out of doing.

So I compiled all of my thoughts into a list of 30 things to do over the next year;

Travel somewhere I don’t know the language
Learn to forgive
Overcome a fear
Attend a Halloween party in full costume
Participate in Carnival
Finally get that tattoo you have been talking about for years
Travel solo
Get your business off the floor
Get your work-life balance in order
~~become more confident with fashion shoots~~
Embrace my body
Go on a road trip
~~Do something for your community~~
Complete a charity obstacle course
Go to an art class
Make my own flower wall
~~Get in touch with my faith~~
Try out more vegan recipes
Release a lantern into the sky
Do something that scares you
Learn to make your own clothing
Take a buying and merchandising course
Save money
Master Mindfulness
Accept and love yourself
Start dancing again
Expand the blog
Start a podcast
Pass my driving test
~~Generate another stream of income~~

My 20’s have been wonderful to me and I have probably gained most of my wisdom within the last 6 years, so I can only imagine how eventful the dirty 30’s will be. If any of my readers are as old as me or have started a bucket list for any other reason please let me know what you want to achieve in the comments. I will be keeping you guys up to speed on what I have achieved over the next year, and whether I complete it all or not I will still have so much to be proud of.

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We Know, Women Are Trash Too!

21 Mar 2018 No Comments

Source: Complex

I promise you if I hear about or see one more dude cry over another story from social media about a conniving female who has been caught out for cheating I am going to lose every one of my God given Marbles.

Now don’t get me wrong, I do not condone cheating at all it is definitely completely wrong under all circumstances. And I am of the sound understanding that if you feel like you aren’t getting what you need from your relationship be it reasonable or just damn right weird you should either discuss it with your partner or end the union. But as a woman growing and beginning to relate to the world I have been lied to, cheated on and just all out disrespected by the opposite sex in ways that should really put me off dating for the rest of my life and stewing in my celibacy.

Okay by now you guys have grasped that I am a drama Queen, but the point I am making is that these experiences have surely made me apprehensive about taking men as seriously as they would like me too.

As of late, I have noticed that men outing women for their infidelities has become a very public and common trend on social media platforms such as Twitter and Instagram. Men have been coming out in what appears to be the droves of acts of solidarity exposing women who have been caught in the act with another man or woman. Now, I repeat I do not agree with scandals such as cheating but this is something that has been happening to women around me and all over the world for as long as I can remember, and whenever I have witnessed it being discussed from our point of view it is ridiculed or palmed off as some twisted right of passage. As if the only thing to do in these situations is to dust yourself off and get back in the game otherwise your ovaries will dry all the way up searching for that perfect man that will never exist. So I am struggling to understand why it should be only be classified as Satans handiwork when it happens to men.

Every time I pose situations such as this to males in my company I often get given the same spiel explaining how different it is for them, how disrespected they feel by the women who deceive them because some of these men really look after the lady in question. They buy them expensive gifts and let them know that the bond that they have differs to that of any other woman and it ends in them feeling exploited.

But what I wanna know is, were you feeling this same level of betrayal when you went out on a lads night and watched your best friend take that girl’s number? Will you keep that same energy when you are bantering in the group chat about how many times you had sexual relations with the local bicycle from around the way and your long-term girlfriend still stays loyal?

Unfortunately, men and women are judged by differing standards in life. Clearly, it is acceptable in societies eyes for a young man growing up to sow his royal oats in as many pastures as he possibly can, whereas to a young woman heartbreak and consistent rebuilding of yourself from the damage caused is created to make you stronger. Plus do it in silence because it is a complete annoyance to hear you all loudly waiting to exhale all over the timeline.

Cheating is a form of disloyalty and dishonesty and any gender is susceptible to being treated with this level of betrayal. Life will throw things at you that a manual has never been written about and tell you to handle it, and everyone has a damn right to be pissed about it. But one person’s pain does not trump another, we should all be exempt from having to constantly combat this pain because respect should be renowned especially when building a relationship.

Karma is a terrible thing that strikes when you least expect it, so we should all be treating others how we feel we would deserve. And I know it appears to some as brotherly to support your homeboy when his girl raises the alarm again about that female that persistently likes all his Instagram posts within a 10-minute time frame. But at the end of the day wouldn’t you want someone to be checked by a nearest and dearest if the shoe was on the other foot.

What I am saying is do unto others as you would have them do unto you, because you never know when it is your turn to be the next cheating scandal on the timeline. My advice; listen to Drake, build a bridge and get over it… quietly😁

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Inspiration For a New Year

3 Jan 2018 No Comments

It has come to that old fateful time where most people begin to reflect on all of their achievements and transgressions of the last year with deep scrutiny, analyse them and vow to never become their former shell ever again. Unfortunately guys I am one of those sentimental individuals who reaches the start of a new year, and is strongly driven to make this year better than the last. But hear me out before ya’ll condemn me to the kingdom of corniness for eternity. My reason for doing it serves more of a motivational purpose than to create wildly unrealistic and unachievable goals. I refuse to put pressure on myself to appear wise and well thought out when really I get to the end of the year and thinking ” homegirl, what have you actually done”.

I devise what I would like to dub standards to shape ideas for what I should be adhering over the upcoming year. And if they don’t go exactly to plan than hey better luck next year boo.

So if you follow me on Instagram you will know that I brought in the new year vision boarding because I am a visual learner and some of the ideas I came up with were;

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I have been a blogger for almost 2 years, and although the progress has not been exactly what I thought it would be when I initially birthed my brain child. In 2017 I was really able to see the beginnings of the growth of my brand, when I was in the planning stages of starting the blog I low-key believed that it could blow-up overnight. And when it didn’t I was high-key disheartened and questioned it’s purpose. But looking back I have enjoyed every high and low of the process, and every part of it has been a a major key to teaching me everything I need to know to make the blog a million times better than it was last year.

Travel More

The best Instagram pictures are taken abroad and I am well deserving of my profile getting a boost. Okay, I joke but I really want to expand on the Robinson Crusoe that lives deep within me and get to different parts of the world. I have visited many countries in my life, but there is still so much that I have not seen… And it the photos will look amazing, but you can’t judge me I am a creative😋

Me time

I am a part-time blogger with a full-time job as my loyal followers are aware, so I feel as though I spend forever and a day working. Where my part-time role is one of my deepest loves Rea’s system can sometimes reach overload and even her better than Duracell batteries need a recharge, so I need to take time to look after my needs. Plus it will give me the opportunity to tick some things off my ever dusty bucket list, maybe learn a new skill or rebuild pastures with an old hobby.

Be in control of my health

Within the last couple of years I have felt that the social media has really played a huge part in showing us the deficits of the nations health and in particular the state of our food. So at the tail end of last year I began the transition into becoming a Vegan based on what I have learnt about our bodies and the effects poor eating habits can have on us, through this I have reignited my taste for exercise and I am aiming to get in tip top shape this year.

Exude confidence

We might aswell call this the confession hour because I am about to get real, I have battled with my physical appearance for most of my life. I can consistently feel confident in my ability to slay because I am your resident clothes horse, but to really look at myself and say “Serea you look beautiful” is a real ass struggle for me. So this year I am going to attempt to be more confident in what the good Lord gave me and praise my physical appearance a lot more.

Thank you to all of my followers, 2017 truly was my year of growth and I really have all of you to thank for it. I hope ya’ll are feeling as enthuasiastic as I am about the start of a new year. Stick around ya girl to be a part of all the antics I’ll be bringing to 2018.

Happy New Year